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How to Succeed as Husband and Wife Real Estate Brokers (Without driving each other crazy!)

This is a contributed post from our good friends Bryan and Eden Dayrit, both of whom are licensed Real Estate Brokers and Appraisers.

Can a husband and wife thrive in the same industry? Is it advisable to pick activities too similar with each other? Can a husband and wife really work on the same projects together?

The popular consensus is NO.

It is a challenge to separate the roles of husband and wife at home and at work. The line simply doesn’t exist. That’s why some companies do not allow married couples to work in the same department. It is a practice rooted from sage wisdom.


But there are always exceptions to the rule, and we will explore a story that illustrates this point beautifully.

Friendly competition

Husband and wife, Bryan and Eden Dayrit are both real estate brokers and appraisers. Bryan does it on a freelance basis while Eden affiliated herself with REMAX.

Being in the real estate industry for 10 years, Eden has a wide network that she taps to make deals possible. Spotting good deals and analyzing the market comes easy for her through experience.

Bryan is a newbie broker with a gift. He is a closer. He started with one deal per month to one deal per week to several deals in a week, undoubtedly a lot more closed deals than Eden can even imagine!

This raised a friendly competition between the husband and wife. They set their respective goals and raced to achieve them. Eden got frustrated as the days trailed by. She couldn’t seem to close deals while Bryan does it effortlessly.

Bryan motivated Eden by instilling habits that worked for him. Working from home has its challenges. The bed is enticing and the fridge is full of food. Bryan set a rule that working hours really meant working and not resting, sleeping or eating. Bryan set an impeccable example. He worked during office hours and has his calendar full of activities.

Eden tried to keep up but is evidently struggling. At one time, Bryan reprimanded her for taking a nap in the middle of the day. She understood the lesson. Success starts with self-discipline and she vowed to do her best. Still, she got burned out in the process. She lamented that she couldn’t even feel at ease in her own home. This bred contempt between husband and wife. Nonetheless, they continued to work independently like they always did.

The tension between the two brought about an unexpected gift. They became aware of each other’s strengths.

Humility set in and they learned to look into each other on tasks that they need help with. Acknowledgment of each one’s strengths led this couple broker to a breakthrough.

The breakthrough deal


One day, a seller contacted Eden through the REMAX site asking if she is interested to help sell her “Cielo” townhouse in Mahogany Place 3, Acacia Estates in Taguig. The seller specifically targeted Eden because of her online presence, dominating the area where her property is.

It was also a blessing that Bryan and Eden live just 5 minutes away from the property. It was a no-brainer to take it on. She set her eyes on getting the property as an exclusive listing because she knew that she could make it happen.

Eden had an epiphany. Meeting the seller face to face is not her forte so she invited Bryan to the listing presentation. It made sense because early on, Bryan made a decision to focus on properties in Acacia Estates. In that way, he doesn’t have to deal with traffic and the properties are just either walking distance or a short drive away.

It was also to their best interest to share the listing so that they can tap their respective networks to sell the property faster. When Bryan passed the real estate brokers exam last May 2015, they really made a conscious decision not to join the same real estate organizations for them to cover more ground. In hindsight, she also knew that Bryan is good at connecting with people and this skill will be integral in bagging this property.

During the meeting, the seller told the couple that getting the property on an exclusive basis is not possible because she has already spoken with several brokers prior. The couple broker had no choice but to take the property as an open listing and think of strategies to stand out of the competition.

Risks and setbacks

Leaving the listing open has its own risks.

It goes by the principle “may the best broker win,” which is a misnomer if one analyzes the scenario it creates. In effect, brokers usually don’t give their best on open listings because they know that the property can be pulled from under their feet if another broker sells it.

There is also always the possibility that the buyer or another broker can bypass the listing broker because it is easy to go to the property talk to the owner directly. This means that the brokers will not put exact addresses and even photos of the façade in their ads because of that risk. It turns off buyers due to the incomplete ad causing them to move on to the next property on the list. This makes the selling process harder.

Listing the property exclusively will make the broker fully accountable to the seller. It is only logical that the listing broker should exert all effort to sell the property because not doing so affect his reputation and his bank account. This ensures that the broker won’t hold back on marketing, even spending on collaterals and online ads because he knew that no one could take the listing from him. Other brokers still have to go through the listing broker by virtue of the exclusive contract.

The Philippines has a long way to go in terms of the real estate profession. We are still living in the wild, wild, west where trust among the professionals is low such that buyers and sellers treat brokers as mere commissioners, which leaves a bad taste in the mouth. The passage of RESA law in 2012 is a big step in professionalizing the industry. It only takes one broker at a time.

The couple encountered another challenge. The seller gave an asking price without any basis but what they heard from the grapevine. Bryan and Eden neither accepted nor rejected the asking price and knew that a research has to be done first to make an objective decision on the list price.

In the middle of the presentation, Eden gave her usual spiel on the professional fee that she gets per deal. Bryan looked at Eden with bewilderment. What she was asking was unheard of in his circles. Still, she stood her ground even as the seller tried to negotiate it down. In her mind, she knew that her services are worth the professional fee.

People will respect you more when you don’t shortchange yourself. It is up to you to deliver impressive work when the time comes. Upon leaving the property, Bryan had misgivings and thought that they might lose the listing because of the negotiation debacle.

“Trust me,” Eden said nervously knowing that she has no option but to deliver.

These setbacks didn’t stop the couple broker because they knew that even with an open listing, they are the best position to sell this property – it was a gem.

Eden knew that she had to step up in order to make an impression on the seller. She knew that there is no stronger argument than an argument using numbers – in this case, actual selling prices and asking prices. Since Bryan knew the market very well, they collaborated in making a comparative market analysis of the properties that have been sold in the past quarter.

They also scoured the area for other available listings that will serve as competition to the property being sold. They found 3 properties sold recently and 15 similar properties that are sitting in the market. These are indisputable numbers.

They also interviewed each seller to know their reason for selling their property. 80% of the respondents wanted to buy the newly released townhouse models and they need to sell their current property in order to buy the new one.

An exchange of emails revealed the seller’s motivation to sell. Like the other sellers, they want to buy the newly launched townhouse model and they need to sell their house and use the cash as down payment. The seller was pressed for time because the new models were selling like hotcakes and will be gone soon.

The submitted comparative market analysis made an impact to the seller. No other broker gave such comprehensive data. Through the report, the couple broker showed that they are experts in the area and meant business. A bridge of trust was formed.

The seller decided to list the property a little below market value, but she didn’t mind because they already recouped their initial investment plus a nifty profit. The other brokers listed the same property for a million pesos more because they accepted the asking price at face value. Bryan and Eden knew then that they had an edge.

The week prior, a Cielo townhouse listed a million less than the agreed list price through another broker. A few days later, the property was sold. They knew then that it was only a matter of time before a buyer comes. They were confident that since the property list price was currently the lowest in the market that time, it would sell.

Prospective buyers lined up to check the property. Pricing the property properly achieved its intended effect. The couple broker received a lot of inquiries and showed the property so often such that the seller got excited with each prospect. A month passed still, no offer has been made. The couple broker continued marketing it nonetheless because they understood that selling is a numbers game. More effort was done to reach more people.

On the eve of the second month of listing, Eden received an inquiry for an old listing – an unfinished house and lot in Acacia Estates from her REMAX network. However, the buyer wanted a house that is ready for occupancy. They want to move in before the wife gives birth. Eden redirected the property to the Cielo townhouse because it is within the same price range and is ready for occupancy.

The turning point

Eden knew very well that she worked better behind the scene than working the frontline facing the buyer and seller. She knew that Bryan’s strength is in closing deals. Instead of going on her way to close the deal on her own, Eden did something different. She sought Bryan’s help to show the property to this new buyer and hopefully close the sale.

An hour later,

“Honey, guess what…” Bryan excitedly announced on the phone.

“You closed the listing!!!” Eden shouted back without hesitation.

The seller was so happy that the buyer only asked for a little discount when they allotted more for negotiation. The buyer was so happy because they’ve been looking at similar properties that were priced one or two million pesos more than the seller’s list price. For the buyer, it was a bargain.

The buyer was very motivated that they want to pay cash on the spot. Bryan pulled back a little and suggested that it is wise to help the buyers do due diligence first before putting out cash.

The buyer appreciated the gesture and took his advice.

More kinks came along the way but all were resolved through proper communication facilitated by both brokers. That is the role of a broker, to find a buyer for a property, or a property for a buyer and ensure a smooth transaction.

Lessons learned

Bryan and Eden learned that their original setup of working individually helped achieve their goals. It is good to do all necessary activities at least once, akin to laying the groundwork for being a good broker. But doing so will limit yourself by your current capabilities if you choose to work alone.

This deal made them realize that working as a team yields better results.

Knowing where they are good at and working on their respective strengths make the tasks effortless for each one. Frustrations were kept at bay. It promoted a fun environment. They realized that working in the same profession shouldn’t equate to competing with each other.

There is strength in partnership.

Bryan’s win is Eden’s win too, and vice versa. Bryan and Eden worked better as a unit. They shifted their focus from the things that frustrate them to things they were good at and were amazed by the result. Their business partnership grew. And most importantly, their partnership in life was invariably strengthened.


Bryan Dayrit took Electronics and Communications Engineering at Bulacan State University. He started his career clinching the Number 1 spot in the 2002 Electronics and Communications Engineering board exam. He worked in the local telecoms industry for 4 years. Being the best in his craft, he was offered consulting jobs for telecoms companies in Bangladesh, Egypt, Saudi Arabia and Iran. He recognized the challenging life of an OFW but lived through it for 8 years before he finally decided to go home.

He picked a totally different route and took the Real Estate Brokers Exam and Real Estate Appraisers Exam, which he passed with flying colors. (Trivia: Both Bryan and Eden got 7th place in the appraisers exam, uh oh.) He is a real estate broker focusing on properties in Acacia Estates and Fort Bonifacio.

You may reach Bryan at

Eden April Alemania Dayrit took Chemical Engineering in De La Salle University- Manila. She worked as a process engineer in semiconductor companies for 3 years. Thinking that it was a solid career path to take, she furthered her studies in Electronics Engineering at Ateneo de Manila University through a DOST scholarship. However, in her last semester, entrepreneurship called. She dropped everything and went into real estate investing. It was a leap of faith that paid off radically.

She took her Real Estate Brokers Exam and Real Estate Appraisers Exam and passed with flying colors. She is also an accredited Real Estate Lecturer and a regular speaker at various real estate symposiums.

In 2013, she joined a team led by Dr. Larry Gamboa started REMAX TRP Realty, a real estate company franchise in Molito Complex, Ayala Alabang. It aims to inculcate the spirit of entrepreneurship to each real estate professional under its umbrella.

She is an avid reader. In 2013, she opened a bookstore selling second-hand novels and brand new textbooks in her alma mater and branched out to Morayta the following year. She also owns a chain of bookstores operating through the SM brand that has over 100 branches nationwide.

You may reach Eden at

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